Preen before you Ruffle 68

Restraint. When we become angry, truly angry, it's hard to keep it to yourself. Unintentionally, we lash out at those around us and we find it harder to apologize later, or it seems contrived to the party we assaulted. Which is unfortunately because a lot of times it can be family or friends.

Before I begin, there are two types of anger. Righteous anger, where you are angry for the right reasons, and anger borne of misunderstanding or frustration. Both can end poorly, though we usually only regret the second variety.

Most anger is the result of us feeling wronged, almost always from a misunderstanding of the bigger picture. Almost as common, jealousy and irritation can also give rise to anger that simmers just below the surface until, like a pot of boiling water, spills over and burns everything. There isn't necessarily a right way to act when you're angry, as part of the problem is the lack of ability to control. But what we can do is exercise thought before action. Not to say we should over analyze, but giving a lot of thought before committing to an idea or cause will condition you to think before you act, even when angry. Though ittedly, this can lead to a problem of anger building up more and releasing even more violently.

Righteous anger is almost never on your own behalf. It's when you see a friend being bullied, or when someone misrepresents something you stand for, or tramples on something you value at your expense. However, it's not usually blinded like the previous kind. It is the kind of anger that causes action for change of a more permenant variety. Be it reporting something to teachers or police, advocating your point to others in the group that sprung up the issue to begin with, or distancing yourself from the root cause, the results are usually much more pretty. Though I cannot say in full confidence that righteous anger is /never/ non-violent. When a crime is in the middle of happening, righteous anger /can/ cause you to act selflessly on another's behalf. If course, it's important to be careful and not attempt to exercise this kind of behavior often. We have police for a reason, after all.

This is a bit more rambly than usual, but I hope my point comes across clearly. Understand your anger and it will slowly fade away. Because anger and reason are usually juxtaposed against one other. Come to full copes with the full picture and the anger cannot coexist. Be safe and keep a cool head.

And as always, have a great day, everyone.