Acceptance. We aren't in control of our lives. Not completely, anyway. For all of our pushing, struggling and effort, we don't always get the happy ending or most ideal outcome. Which isn't to say we shouldn't try, but it certainly tells us we need to learn to accept that.
It's easy to tell ourselves small changes we could have made to what we've already done. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say, so it's unfair to look back and say we should have chosen different. A lot of times we choose based on how we feel and what we know in varying degrees. But we have to be careful here.
Regardless of what we know, regardless of how good we think we chose, it isn't until every card on the table and up every sleeve and under every hat is revealed that we truly know what the best choice was. So we cannot be upset at ourselves for outside factors, these cards that aren't a part of the game, to suddenly come to light.
We have to understand that there is an outside element and aspect to every facet of our lives. A part we have no control over, at all. A part we pretend is small, but is usually as large or larger than our part that we have full control of. It's embarrassing to have to it we have no control. We so act as though we do, heads held high, whether we know it or not. And in a sense, there's nothing wrong with that. But we can't keep up the illusion when we or others are hurt by that behavior.
When we make our best choice... When we look at what we know and how we feel and have to make those split-second decisions, what reason is there to be mad afterward? In those scenarios, when we choose (and we almost always choose), we need to pick the one we will regret least. And, as far as I'm personally concerned, the only action worth scolding is inaction. To be fair, there are certainly times where inaction is the best choice. But usually, choosing to do nothing is the worst we can do. Because then we can rationalize and say that we blame outside forces that were never a part to begin with.
So strike your balance. Know who you are. How you feel. What matters most to you. And when situations arise, meet them with your choice, the one you feel is best. And if it was the wrong call, learn and move on. Don't linger on the past. Don't think of what could have been. Live not even in the present, but working towards a future.
Choose to embrace the future that you want.
And as always, have a great day, everyone.
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