This is only for those that identify as cupioromantic/cupiosexual

I know what the definitions are for both, but I still question where my parts of my identity specifically lie on the aro and ace spectrums.

If you identify as either of those, how did you know? What makes identifying as those different then just being allo?

There’s discourse in both communities about attraction and desire. Apparently, if you desire romance or sex then you aren’t aro or ace. I disagree but that’s another topic for another day. I pretty much just want to know about y’all’s experiences with being cupio and how you came to discover that.