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:warning: I'm going to talk about my own experience, it doesn't mean that the same thing will happen to you or to another person, I just want to explain how I've been feeling about it.
:warning: it's a confusing topic for me and i don't know how to explain it right.
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Being asexual doesn't mean that you don't have sexual relationships or that you don't want to date. Being asexual means you don't FEEL sexual attraction. People confuse asexual with aromantic and that's not like it. Aromantic means you don't feel ROMANTIC attraction. An asexual person CAN have a sexual relationship.
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Well, since I started middle school, people have talked about sex all the time, this has always made me feel uncomfortable, but I didn't even know what asexual was. I found out that I could be asexual with 15 years, and now with almost 17 I'm publicly out as an asexual person. I'm completely satisfied with myself, but I also found out that I'm not aromantic, so I would like to be in love, as a common teenager, but my perspective of love is different, I want to show affection, but I don't want to kiss, so I forgot it for a while, I didn't like anyone anyway.
But recently I got to know a cool guy, he is cute and everything. I've liked him, not love, but like (I guess), so I started to think about my actual situation, I've never had a boy/girlfriend (this is okay for me) but I want someone to love me, but love = sex, so I wonder if someone will date me someday.
The worst thing is feeling insufficient when you like someone. I've seen asexual couples on the internet and I've been thinking "why doesn't this happen with me??". Is sexual orientation that important?
Flirting with boys I realized that everything is a natural interest, at the same time I say "you're so cute" they say "you have a nice body" and talk about sexual stuff.
Why do they want it so badly? I can't understand. Of course, it doesn't happen with all boys.
Actually, I'm thinking right now, maybe I'm too uncomfortable because I may be being deluded? people could have been showing affection for me because they want to get sexual stuff? I don't know.
Everything I want to show with this is that getting to know yourself better is confusing, you can get a lot of trouble thinking about everything. But everything will be right soon. For all of us, including me.
Don't be so pressured about it. Love is love and it doesn't mean to be sexual relationships for everyone. Everyone has their own way of showing love.
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Comments (8)
Well, after this blog... thank you so much, i was confused about asexual and now i dont have any questions... thanks :))
I feel you. I identify as demisexual but I tend to lead more asexual. I’m perfectly comfortable with talking about sex, but I really don’t like the idea of actually doing it. In theory, it sounds okay, but I would not want it. But I’m not ruling it out so I’ll just go with Demi for now. I feel like as a teen, we’re expected to be into sex and be like going at it all the time. Parents constantly impress this upon us as well as teachers. It’s just wrong.
I think you are gucci, you will find somebody who will love you so don't worry. Oh and you do have right to feel uncomfortable when people make comment about your body after flirting. However you shouldent get mad, best thing would be to tell them how you feel and what you don't and what you want.
Thank you