My Pro Revenge

So for context, I was 21 at the time and this was about 5 or 6 months ago and had been on estrogen(hrt) for just 2 and half years. At this point I was ing really well and people didn't know I was transgender. I came out to my work that I was trans because I wanted to be to be out with the trans youth who needed (I'm in college for my SSW).

A person who I had known for a while who was pretty messed up and lazy also started working there. Our job was mainly to play a peer role, which meant we were working with at risk youth and disabled and less fortunate youth. I had been in my position for about a half a year and this person who was working with me, we will call her Rhonda. Rhonda knew me before I transitioned and didn't really care for me to much which was fine since I had felt the same way. She wasn't a very pretty girl and acted like the world thought she was hot shit XD. So when she found out she was working with me, she played nice at first and said that we should bury the hatchet! I'm always down for a peaceful existence because what's the point of holding on to stuff (man what a fool I was to think this with her.)

So months go by I think everything is fine, she does her work and I do mine with a little head-butting because of her lack of knowledge and working with people who were kinda in a bad space. At one point, she was trying to handle a situation where there was a few people fighting, she tried to push me away from helping when I'm the one with a year and a bit of my college training through and had just finished my conflict resolution class. The policy was that multiple staff should be present during an incident. She had no training and wasn't handling it as best it could be. Later I manage to get in and help the people work out their issue at the time and I go to confront Rhonda. I tell her:

Me: "We shouldn't work alone on stuff like this because at least someone can be there to confirm what was said at the time and can take the parties aside and talk to one another so it wouldn't get worse."

Rhonda refusing to look me in the eyes: "Yeah whatever."

Me: "Its a manner of safety and we are a team, not to mention I do have some background that would be helpful."

Rhonda still not looking: "Okay whatever."

I leave and go on with the rest of the time there. So time goes on and I hear that Rhonda has started trash talking behind my back. Saying nasty things like I'm an anorexic trans women! Rhonda is over weight and I was pretty big at the time and was healthily losing weight (I'm down over 40lb). I presume that made her jealous that I was so happy about my weight loss so she tried to bring me down she had also said other nasty things about other trans youth who went there. I only found out about this because it had made it all the way to my mother! She asked me

Mom:"Why are you calling yourself that. Your sister told me that you had been saying this."

Me caught off guard: "WHAT?! I'd never say that because I'm not and I like food and I know that it's a serious condition!"

So she told me it came from the youth center. And the only connection from my house to the center was me and my sister who was friends with Rhonda's sister

I confronted her and she wouldn't look me in the eyes and started crying. This was with my boss at the time, lovely lady. After saying I would make concessions so we could work in peace

Rhonda:"I don't think I can do that. I don't want to. No I won't do that."

Half the time still not looking at me or my boss and half crying. She left the room and my boss apologized for what had happened. Not too far later the rumours got worse and worse. She went to everyone she could outing me as trans and insulting me with everything from ranging I took her ideas (which were like 90% bad) to that I even sexually assaulted her. So I'm a rape survivor myself and I cried for a while when I heard these claims. It affected my mental health a lot. But my work wouldn't do anything to help deal with this issue. They tried to send me to an outside mediation session which never lead anywhere and she didnt even show up to. However the one time they got to talk to her she claimed she never said any of it and that the assault was suddenly recent and not years ago and wasn't as bad as she claimed. Go figure she lied over and over again and it got caught up.

Crazy shit she said: I made my bf, a trans man who was out before me as transgender, that I was conditioning him to assault people and get away with it by saying that he's trans. And that I will do this to others! (I don't get it, but I guess I'm a cult leader now.)

I have a good system that helped me document all this bullshit and I had signed stations by people who she told these terrible things too. So I was leaving the centre actually because if my work wasn't going to deal with blatant transphobia and harassment then I wasn't sticking around.

She likely did this because I'm trans. She often makes transphoic comments, such as that my boyfriend is actually a woman/faking, even though he has been out and transitioned for 5+ years.

Now for the revenge! An opportunity appeared when I was to be sent to one last provincial meeting! This is a major meeting with all the different youth centers throughout our province. This had all the other leaders and employees of the other centers around my province and the major ive team of all the centers across the province. I spent the day I was there talking to all of the ive team, other Center staff, and the HR of all the youth centers. I told them everything! All the crazy and transphobic things that had been said by Rhonda. So it went up to the highest it could go and I had all eyes on my center. I came back to my work, took my money and told them I quit. Didn't give them any notes from the meeting but sure as hell enjoyed the free hotel night, free food and money. I left Rhonda in major hot water and the center as well since it fell under a hate crime. The fact that my bosses did nothing and didnt report it broke multiple policies and laws.

So I lit a match and let it burn as I walked away from this place (metaphorically). Now as a I finish my SSW program I tell the people I run into who work with trans or queer youth to not go there. Currently, the center is under major investigation from the head agency. I will update if I hear about what action was taken.

TLDR: Im a trans woman. A coworker at a youth center spread extremelt false rumors about me to staff and clients, including: I'm anorexic, I stole her ideas, claimed I sexually assaulted her, am using my transition as an excuse, and that I'm brainwashing my boyfriend into assaulting people. My bosses did nothing to handle the situation. Right before I quit, they sent me to a major meeting with all the other youth centers. There I told HR and all the major higher ups what happened. I enjoyed the free food and weekend in a hotel. I then took my paycheque, gave them no notes on the events of the meeting, and quit. The center is under major investigation for a hate crime now.