As of the moment, I identify as a Bi Oriented AroAce. I had this random thought just now about my preferences. I looked back at an old post of mine talking about how something fits me. Men still make me uncomfortable, and I still haven’t figured out the reason behind it. I don’t know if it has something to do with my sexuality or not. For the sake of this post, let’s pretend that I actually don’t mind them.
My question is…would it be wrong of me to label as a Sapphic AroAce even if I have no problem with being with a man?
Right now, I’m believing that I just like women. Women have never made me feel uncomfortable in any way. I actually would prefer it ngl. I know that labeling isn’t everything, but I like to have labels to help me describe my feelings and stuff.
Edit: Before someone looks at my profile and comes at me saying “you aren’t a woman though”. I am…just not fully. I’ve begun to feel more comfortable with my assigned gender. Even so, I am still more Agender than anything because there’s more to me than being a ciswoman. My feelings are complicated. Everything is complicated. I can say that I will never be a ciswoman but still a woman nonetheless.
Comments (4)
sapphic just means a non-man that likes non-men so ur good on ur gender part of the question. and I'm pretty certain I've seen like bi/pan people call themselves sapphic cuz they still like women/ non-men. but as a genderfucky lesbian I have no issues with you calling yourself that also!
also, I know the post wasn't really about this and sorry for being off topic but the whole uncomfortable thing with dating a man I can relate to. Before I realized I was a lesbian I thought I was bi with a strong preference for non men because every once in a while I would be attracted to one. But! the thing is when I imagined dating them I would get uncomfortable and think it's gross lol. Also compulsory heterosexuality played a big role in this which definitely didn't help.
But ultimately I realized that if I didn't wanna date a man then there was no way I was bi. So yeah now I'm a proud lesbian that owns that I reallllly love women lol. So maybe u just don't like men that way? Just a thought but it's your life and u call urself whatever u want :)
It doenst really matter, I'm Achillean and Aroace, I'm still happy with women but because I mainly prefer non women I use achillean
i don’t think there’s anything wrong w it at all. especially considering sapphic is just a non-man loving a non-man. but also you’re just figuring urself out and there’s nothing wrong with trying out labels to see if they can properly express how you feel about urself. if you change ur mind later then so b it. in my eyes, labels are a personal thing, to help you personally figure yourself out, not for outside ppl necessarily. so don’t worry too much about what other ppl think abt ur chosen labels.