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started ;; 04.25.2019
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┊Hey guys!
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┊Today I’m going to be talking about navigating
┊college forms as a trans person, and
┊choosing the right college for your needs!
┊Naturally this shouldn’t be your only
┊standard for a college, but if you’re like me,
┊it’s going to be pretty important to you!
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┊͙So, let’s get to the post!
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The Problems With College Dorms
Almost all college Dorms, by default, are sorted by sex. This means if you haven’t had your gender marker changed, or, in some cases, if you haven’t had SRS, you’ll be roomed with someone who matches the sex you were assigned at birth.
This can be dangerous. Someone living with you will have to be able to accept you for who you are, and if they don’t, they’re in an all too easy position to act violently, harass you, or otherwise be hostile.
So, what can you do to make sure you’re doomed with someone of the right gender?
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Before College
If you’re going into college knowing you’re trans, I’ve got a few tips for you from when I was shopping around!
Ask Questions
Call or visit the college, and after the tour (if you’re visiting) ask who you’d be roomed with as a trans person. Check that they have a policy in place. If they don’t, that’s usually not a good sign.
If they can’t give you an answer, even after making phone calls (which they’ll typically have to do) that college can generally be regarded as unsafe, unless you get testimonies from people already going there that say otherwise.
that the people there are there specifically to answer questions! Don’t feel bad - it’s for your own safety. They wouldn’t have this job if they didn’t have an obligation to answer questions that come their way.
Do your own research
See if you can find any information on the college website about possible housing options, such as Co-ed dorms or housing that’s inclusive of trans and gnc people!
If possible, see if you can get in with the campus LGBT club, and ask them what their experiences on campus have been! Chances are they’ll have a great read on the campus climate, and they’ll be able to advice you on what to do!
Find Colleges with Good Reputations
There’s plenty of sites you can find, and google searches you can do, to make sure the college you’re interested in is LGBT friendly, and one you can be sure will accept you and your rooming/housing needs!
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During College
A lot of people can’t transition until they get to college, or live as their real gender even after they get there. Some aren’t out to family yet.
Here’s a guide for people who want to transition while at college. It’ll be a lot harder if your family doesn’t know, but not impossible by any means.
Talk to Res Life
Every college has a Res Life & Housing office, including yours! Get in with them about your situation and see if you can be roomed with someone who also identifies as what you do, or another trans person.
Get Involved
your campus’s pride club! See if you can find a roommate for next year there whose accepting of trans people, or is trans themselves.
That said, make sure you’re comfortable with that person too. There’s no point to this if you’d be unsafe even with another LGBT person.
Talk to Friends
When all else fails, rely on your friends. Talk to them and see if you can room with someone you’re friends with, even if your gender identities don’t match up.
Ultimately, it’s better to be with someone you can trust than someone you might not be able to.
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Parting Notes
Unfortunately, all of these won’t work for everyone, and I’m sorry about that.
This is just what I’ve picked up while living in a very liberal state, on a very liberal campus. We’ve had housing accepting of trans and gnc students for years.
If you can’t find a campus near you that has any accommodations, don’t be afraid to look a little further. You’ll be going home less often if you’re comfortable where you’re at.
With all this said, I wish everyone going into (or in!) college with the best of luck with their rooming. It’s a tough job, but we can all get through it!
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Comments (20)
Damn...I’m supposed to get a single bedroom + bathroom, but there are only 10 accommodation rooms and I’m worried I won’t get one.
My sex is legally male, but I have a fear and extreme distaste for cis men, so I don’t want to room or shower near one.
That’s completely understandable. I wish you the best of luck getting the right housing. If you’re left to random assignment, see if you can get in with your roommate before you get there. Chances are, if they’re transphobic, you can the school and get someone new.
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Yeah.... Thanks! I can at least get single housing though, although not with a bathroom.
Or go to a community college. That’s what I do and I don’t have to worry about dorms since my school doesn’t have them to begin with :). It’s also a lot cheaper!
Yep! Community colleges are great!
Thanks. I still feel too upset about this situation to talk about it, but I'm glad you being it up
No problem! Good luck with your situation!