And believe me, you don't need words to know. Of course, verbal is always gonna be the better option when you want to know if a woman is into other women, or interested in you, but that's probably one of the more awkward and difficult ways to go about it. But that's just me since I like to socially get to know people first, and I don't become romantically attracted to a woman and go that route until the light switch hits. Besides, I'm old enough to know that my fantasy of the person is not an accurate portrayal of that person. But if truly that person is interested in me, I want to get to know them, and they will get to know me. However, along the way and with the help of my other relationship as well, I kinda realized the tells are not much different from the regular social cues for a good portion of experiences regardless of sexual orientation. Social and physical behavior tell the same story.
So, some of the biggest tells when a woman is interested in me is when they're eyes find me. It doesn't matter if it was at work or school or a social gathering. I've had a woman catching several glances at me from across the lawn of an outdoor event with a bunch of people. Her eyes just wanted to look for me, even when she was talking with a bunch of other people. The woman was so obvious that my best friend noticed. That's a huge story that doesn't need to be told. But that's a huge tell.
Coworkers at my jobs would look for me sometimes, and some who didn't even expect me to be on shift would have bright eyes, excited to see me. I even caught the attention of a woman who rarely came to my job and she would be compelled to stop by to talk. And when I hurt my hand, she had to say you need to take care of those hands.
I've had a classmate, even though she was straight, she would seek me out at my job, and then try to take me out to lunch. My wife at the time, noticed the girl was interested in me because she showed all the signs that she had a crush. She would say the way the girl looks at you, "She's in love with you." I had to say to my wife, I know, just please don't bring it up.
So, a lot of times, women I've noticed who were interested in me would seek me out, if I went to an event they would be excited that I was there. I've had moments where they want me to themselves in conversations. Even in a group setting, I had to be within eye view of them. They would want to sit next to me, sometimes as close as possible. And stand close to me as well, and if they could beyond personal space as well. They would sneak touches in or slight grazes... So, whatever opportunities they could get to get close, they would take it. Or if they get comfortable enough to lay their head on me like I was their personal pillow. They would pay close attention to my well-being, whether it’s my mood or health, and I'm talking about noticing the subtle changes, not the obvious ones. And they will even notice the subtle differences in looks as well. They sometimes might feel more compelled to defend me. They buy me snacks or a drink, and it's a definite tell when they get my usual or favorite drinks or snacks. I understand the difference if someone has known me for a long time they would know. I'm talking about someone who hasn't been around me for too long and would do those things. I've noticed they feel more compelled to treat me to things, but like I said if they haven't been around me for too long.
Then again, for some reason, women who come into my life act more alpha-like, which I don't like using that word. They act more dominant with me even though I dress more masculine presenting. They just feel more compelled to protect me and make sure I'm OK, and to even order me not to overdo myself.
Funny story...
A long time ago...
I was told by a group of women at my job when I was recovering from bad injuries to just sit right there, and look pretty. If you try to do something you're not supposed to do, and they give that eye saying, don't make me scold you vibe.
I attract the same type of women who I end up in relationships with... I think it's just my vibe to attract dominant women.
But the first example was the most consistent I've seen. The eyes always say it louder than words.
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