My Question of the Week

What do you think keeps you or someone you may know in a toxic/unhealthy relationship/friendship?

There are a lot of reasons why

on an individual basis. Here are

a few of my views.

For a relationship, I think it's believing things will get better. "If I just keep trying hard enough. If I just keep giving more. If I just relinquish my needs in favor of theirs. If I just show more ways to give them love and attention." You're left feeling empty, drained and burnt out. Unfortunately, if the other person refuses to budge, there's nothing that can be done. Because as much as we want to, we can't change someone else's ways. This ends up giving us no choice but to either accept how it is or walk away.

For a friendship, I think it's low self-esteem. You believe that no one else would be interested in being your friend. So you accept their negative toxic behavior towards you because you don't want to be alone. Heres the thing though. Toxic People tend to gravitate towards those they can control. There's a reason why you were singled out and chosen. You are better than that. You are above the ab. All you gotta do is stand up.

#qotw