Hi. Bisexual transgender man here.
So, I don't necessarily understand and am not really sure if pansexuality exists, but that's not the point of this post.
I've gone around asking a multitude of people why pansexuality isn't bisexuality. To my surprise, a vast majority of pro-pansexual people claimed that it was like bisexuality, except that they're inclusive to transgender people.
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Um, that's pretty hurtful! And in more ways than one!!
Bisexuality means attraction to both sexes. At least, that's how I and many others define it. I won't go into semantics about how others define it, though there are some who say it's about the gender. Well, so what? How does any of those definitions translate into meaning we won't date transgender people? I have even seen a few people describe bisexuality of also being inclusive to more than two genders (Which makes sense under the definition I go by at least, since sex and gender aren't synonymous)!! So :clap: 🏻 what's :clap: 🏻 the :clap: 🏻 deal? :clap: 🏻
Whenever someone says this, it makes me feel othered as a trans person.. Like I don't belong /anywhere/ with the sexes or genders. Like I'm just so much of an enigma that only pans can be inclusive of us.
Which is very much untrue!
ALL sexualities have the capability of loving and dating trans people, as well as the inability to do so! I've dated asexuals, pansexuals, homosexuals, and straight people. Not other bisexuals, but only because I'm way too awkward and shy to dive back into the dating scene.
Despite not dating other bi's, I have seem bisexual friends of mine state that they're open to dating trans folk. As am I!
If you're someone who believes this, may I ask you why? What has led you to believe only certain sexualities can be inclusive to trans folk? Bisexuality has never been inherently about not dating transgender folk.
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Nonbinary persons exist so bisexual isn't an inclusive enough term.
Hi! I'm a pan here! I believe pan except everything but i do agree on that bi people can also date trans people.
But i believe pan does exist. In my opinion.
This :clap: :clap:
I'm bi. Being bi, I am attracted to both genders. That includes trans males, and frlltrans females. Because ftm and mtf are JUST what they identify as. Nothing less.
Being pan is just being open to the entire spectrum. Having no actual preference. Not saying they like boys and girls specifically. More so, they fall in love with whoever they fall in love with. People who say pan is just basucally opening doors to trans people is wrong.
I'm bi and my boyfriend is ftm :triumph:
So I’m pan and that means I like all genders the entire spectrum, the prefix bi means two meaning that u like two genders. I agree w u that it shouldn’t matter if you’re trans. It doesn’t matter to me, but the reason I’m pan isn’t to be inclusive to transgender folks it’s to say what I like (anyone) but I do understand why some ppl that identify as pan do it to be inclusive, because a few ppl r rude and won’t date transgender ppl. Also side note if u r bi u can like non binary and chicks for example and that would be bi because it’s two genders.
Some people say two as in two sexes. I know I say it as in sexes, not gender.
I am bisexual but Idk abt the pan stuff. it doesn’t matter if if doesn’t hurt you emotionally but if it does then idk what to do