Hi I’m non binary and my gender is strange but I wanted to know how other non binary people feel about theirs.
For non binary people that experience dysphoria (not trying to exclude non dysphoric non binary people, just trying to talk to people that are going through what I am)
- Do you feel dysphoria towards both binary genders?
- One more than the other?
- How do you deal with it or do you just constantly compromise?
- Do you consider yourself trans and why?
This is purely just to compare my experiences to other people and make me feel like I’m less alone with my feelings.
Feel free to only answer certain questions.
Comments (4)
My gender experience is weird too. I'm kind of genderflux and genderfluid and I the way I experience dysphoria is different from how I feel each day and can even change hourly. But I generally feel more dysphoria towards what I was assigned at birth, because I know I get perceived as that 90% of the time. Being perceived as the opposite gives me at least the affirmation that I can be perceived as something else that that. So usually I try to achieve that and throw in a little twist, but it really comes down to how I feel that day and what social context I'm in.
And yes I consider myself trans, since I don't identify with the gender I was assigned as at birth and I'm going through some kind of transition (social at this point, hopefully medical in the future)
I'm agender and feel dysphoric to both of the binary genders, although how much depends on the situation. In a setting where they say something like "girls on the left boys on the right" I feel extremely dysphoric to both. But I also know that most people won't look at me and know I'm nonbinary/agender, and will assume I am either a man or a woman. In this case, I feel less dysphoric when they assume I am a man, as their assumption of me is not in the box I was crammed into my whole life. Whether or not I correct them depends on how much of an influence they will have on my life, for example if I accidentally bump into someone in public, I likely won't correct them, but if I am with friends and they are someone I interact with frequently or for a long period of time, I will. I do consider myself trans, as my gender is a large portion of my identity and is not what i was assigned at birth, and is generally easier to explain as a starting point to introduce the concept of agender.
I'm non-binary but I might consider myself demi boy in the future. I feel dysphoric towards my agab because my body looks more feminine and it makes me uncomfortable that it doesn't look how I want it to be. Gender roles and misgendering also makes me feel dysphoric/uncomfortable (somedays I can and can't handle it). Sometimes if it gets bad, I have to leave/walk away. I have a hard time correcting people because I don't want to hear a Karen say something hurtful.
And yes I do consider myself transmasculine. I wish I could feel fully male but its hard to feel that way when everyone has been telling me I'm something else my whole life. I consider myself trans because I would like to get top surgery/hormone therapy in the future. I want to transition to feel more comfortable in my own skin. Ik its no ones business but I dont want people to see me as female because I'm not and it feels like that's all they see. It hurts that they can't see the real me.
I'm a demi boy and feel more trans man than nonbinary, but I still consider myself nonbinary cause the label is comfy. I do consider myself trans, I feel much more dysphoric about being called a girl and the boy part fluctuates but never is 100% bad. And I only really expose the nonbinary part when I feel comfortable around the person but upon first meeting I prefer being seen as a man, then the other part of my gender comes when I feel I'll be taken seriously.