How I Feel About Romance and Love as an Aroace

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│ I’m Squippy, your wholesome cursed cat and today

│ I’m gonna talk about love. This post is heavily

| opinionated and it’s gonna be sort of a rant. I’m

| interested in hearing your thoughts as well. Sit back

| and enjoy my over exaggerated frustration lmao :heartpulse:

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݄⿴݃*₊↷ Context 。

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If you’re not sure what “Aroace” is, it’s a combination of the words Aromantic and “Ace,” or Asexual. Aromantic simply means someone who does not experience romantic attraction. The tend to not have crushes or fall in love with others. Asexual means someone who does not experience sexual attraction. They don’t desire intimate relationships. Of course, this doesn’t mean that we are heartless or cold. We can still love people, just not in the way I described. Some Aces do in fact take part in intimate situations, but mostly it’s not for personal desires. As an aroace, I do experience aesthetic attraction, however. I might appreciate how someone looks and be drawn to their appearance without actually loving them or wanting to be with them.

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݄⿴݃*₊↷My Experience 。

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I have had cases where a few guys and girls confessed their love for me. Said they had a crush on me, asked to be with them, etc. Of course, I turned them all down. It’s obvious why I did; I wasn’t in love with them at all. But the whole experience just bothered me to an extreme extent. It made me so uncomfortable and I couldn’t help but feel awkward when I spent time with them shortly after. I wasn’t going to let that ruin our friendship of course, but that horrible feeling I got still sticks even today. It makes me cringe, to say the least. I heard that someone was angry with me because I wouldn’t date him and go to the dance with him. We were really good friends, too. Like, come on. It’s frustrating to an extreme extent how refusing someone’s love can make them dislike you.

Nevertheless, I will forever hate it when anyone confesses their love to me. I absolutely hate it. I would say it’s flattering, but it’s just way too awkward. It doesn’t make me feel appreciated, happy or excited. Call me ungrateful. I just despise it, knowing that someone is attracted to me when I will never feel the same way. I don’t want people to fall in love with me. I know that feeling is hard to get rid of once you’re rejected, but the thought that someone wants me to be more than a friend scares me.

As for sexual attraction, out of the question entirely. I have never in my life desired to be with a person in “that way”, no matter how beautiful I thought they were. Just thinking about participating in such activities really really bother me. I hear people talk all the time about how much they would like to be intimate with someone, and I just get super annoyed.

You know what adult shows are like. Whenever something really intimate happens (which is like, every single episode wtf) I can’t help but stare down at my phone and attempt to block it out or leave the room. I get really frustrated and feel extremely uncomfortable. Now you might be wondering how I deal with this, knowing that this world is very ionate about love. My main option is to just avoid or stop watching anything that’s heavily romance based. Of course I can’t avoid everything, though. People will hold hands or kiss in public, and I have no problem with that. But I won’t take it upon myself to willingly surround myself within that environment.

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݄⿴݃*₊↷My Opinion 。

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This world would not be the same without love. It would be nothing without it, of course. It’s so incredibly important to our lives and us humans benefit greatly from it. I’m extremely happy for those who find that special someone and live happily ever after. I, however, do not see the appeal myself. I think about how desperate some people are for love and I can’t help but scratch my head. Is it really a necessity?

Surely it is, to most people. But I honestly do not understand why it’s such a big deal. I would be completely fine living by myself my whole entire life. I’d be much more happier that way. I never found myself looking for a relationship for any reason and sometimes I’ll just get really annoyed and frustrated whenever it’s obsessed over. Like, okay, you want/ have a partner, please stop talking about it 24/7.

I honestly see love more as a burden than anything. It just causes so much trouble. Fighting, cheating, breaking up, divorce, etc. It’s not worth it to me. And the thought of knowing that someone expects those “things” from you? Absolutely not. I despise those romantic tropes in movies, too. Girl meets boy, they just HAVE to fall in love. Eye roll. Why can’t they just be friends for once? :sob:

basically I’m saying it’s overrated lmao :skull: :eyes:

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So, yeah. Hopefully you found this at least somewhat interesting or even relatable? I’m interested in hearing your opinion on this so feel free to make a comment. I guess this is a fitting post for Valentine’s Day? Hope you guys got plenty of chocolate and flowers! :heart:

Y’all lovely, stay beautiful! ٩( ᐛ )و :two_hearts:

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