So I turned 27 yesterday and I decided today that I want to finally come out to my family. I live far away from them ( opposite side of my province), we have a good relationship now, and I have every reason to believe it will go over ok.
My dad is very chill, my mum has lots of friends who are gay. She has been vocal against homophobic relatives of ours, even her siblings. But coming out as gay, I find, is different than coming out as bi. Because while my mum has openly gay friends, she has no openly bi friends. I don't know her views on that.
My one experience trying to come out was in highschool, a few months into coming to the conclusion that all the things I felt growing up towards women was real. I was dating a girl, I felt comfortable with this finally... My dad says. It's maybe a phase.
I don't blame my dad, fully, even though it stung. I don't think he realized how much it hurt to hear that. But he didn't mean it to be harmful. So now, YEARS later, I'm wanting to try again.
In part because I don't want to hide this anymore. I want to be open and proud. And I don't want the added pressure of not being out to my family to impede a possible future relationship with a woman.
But despite all these things, I'm terrified of hearing "it's just a phase" or ... Some other unintentionally dismissive phrases.
Any advice?
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hey hun, my best advice would be to explain to your parents how you feel, how long you’ve felt this way, and how certain you are in your identity. they’re less likely to think its a phase, and since they both seem ive, it should go well. on the off chance that it doesn’t, at least know that their opinion doesnt make you any less valid, and that youre being true to yourself. i hope this goes well for you <3
Thank you so much :) I ended up telling them and it went really well :)
Reply to: Rose
omg yes that’s awesome!