I know asking a question like this before even making an introduction post is not the best idea but I'm pretty desperate for advice at this point and have no idea who to ask.
So to explain my situation, I identify as non-binary and hate being called by words that are connected to my sex/the gender most people think I identify with. I don't correct them, in fact I never told anyone besides my best friend and never really planned on telling someone else the next few years but now I'm in a relationship, one that goes on for several months now. My partner considers themselves as heterosexuel and sees me as the sex I was assigned with at birth.
We already once talked about genders outside the binary and while they have no problem accepting people identifying with the opposite sex they think everything outside the binary isn't valid.
I really want to tell them somehow but don't know how I should do that, I know I'm maybe asking a bit much with this but at this point any advice is good advice to me since I really don't know what to do.
(I don't know if this is also important but they knew even before we where together that I don't care about someones gender when it comes to interested in someone in a romantic way and had no problem with that what so ever.)
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Of course, it’s different for every relationship, but I think you should be open with your partner. You deserve to be comfortable in the relationship, including being addressed by your correct pronouns. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. I know it’s hard to come out to people you value the most, but I know you can do it!! Of course, it’s up to you though. :heart:
I think the best way to do it would be face to face. If you have trouble with confrontation you may want to write them a note or text them.
Maybe over call if you still want the same affect of talking.
Dont beat around the bush when you tell him. Go straight to the point. Wording can sometimes confuse and the more you talk the longer it will take for you to explain yourself. You may even end up talking yourself out of telling him.
If he angers easy or you know he'll be mad about the news, do it over a distance. Some people lash out without thinking when things like these happen.