AITA??

Cw/tw: Cussing, talk of panic attack, venting ig??

Am i the asshole for making my friend mad at me?

for privacy reasons i will be calling the girl who is mad at me “Ava” and the other boy in the story “max”.

Ava and i have been really good friends since like the fourth grade, and ever since we met our friendship has been fake bullying and more recently fake flirting. Stuff like that. Today in Gym, one of our mutual friends, Max, started having a panic attack. So after we finished our laps Max and i went to the locker room (Max is trans so we both go to the same locker room still.), and i sat him down and hugged him and told him he was safe and everything to try to comfort him. He was still panicking when he had to leave the Locker room, but we couldn’t stay in there forever or the teacher would be suspicious.

So i walk back out with Max and our Coach is trying to explain to us what to do for our fitness testing that day. I was already starting to get a bit overwhelmed with all the voices of people talking to each other around me, trying to listen to the Coach’s instructions, and trying to comfort Max, as at this point he was apologizing profusely through ragged breathing but refused to let me go ask the teacher if he could sit out.

Ava walks up to us and starts asking me what’s happened. She asked it in a sort of rude way, asking “What the hell is wrong??” The first time i didn’t hear her because i was already beginning to get stressed. When she asked again i just gave her a quick “shut up” because i was trying to listen to the Coach, and that’s how we normally talk to each other. Ava keeps asking though, and i know she’s asking me and not Max because she’s looking directly at me and crossing her arms. She tried to get my attention again to ask, but i kept ignoring her. When i turned to face Max again he was still trying not to cry so he wouldn’t make a scene, and Ava rolled her eyes and said “i’m just trying to figure out what’s wrong.” Max was still stuttering and stammering and couldn’t speak all that well, so i just said “Don’t worry Max- Ava i’d just being a bitch.” I figured it would be alright to say that because that’s how me and Ava talk to each other all the time.

I struggle a lot with telling if something is sarcasm or not, so when Ava glared at me and rolled her eyes, i thought she was being sarcastic because she’s always sarcastic. that’s like her whole personality. She said “What, are you trying to fight?” And Max gave a small laugh. I’m not very good with situational Awareness so i assumed Ava was just joking around to try to make Max feel better as he’s always loved our sarcastic humor. So i played into it, saying “Yeah come on bitch- let’s go-“ And Ava had just rolled her eyes before i turned my attention back to Max and she walked away.

I didn’t think any more of this because she didn’t talk to me for the rest of Gym class. When we were in the locker room at the end of class, Max was still panicked but had been calming down a bit, enough to talk and stuff. He was changing in the bathroom the locker room had, and i didn’t need to change as i always waited to change at home anyway. But i knew sometimes Ava did. Ava used to always wait till everyone else was out of the locker room to change due to self image issues, but as of late i had been just standing in front of her with my back turned so that she could get changed without fear of anyone looking at her. Today though when i tried to ask ava if she needed to change, she pushed me away from her and said “Oh i thought you didn’t want to talk to me?”

i being so confused so i just laughed and asked what she was talking about. She said that she thought i wanted to fight her and that’s when i realized she sounded genuinely mad. I started feeling bad and i wanted to apologize to her but decided to keep my mouth shut there, as another girl, who wasn’t one of our friends, was there as well chanting things like “Fight” and being all in our business and i didn’t want to bring up Maxs panic in front of her. So Ava had stormed out of the locker room.

as soon as i could i texted Ava to explain myself and apologize only to find she had blocked my number. So i tried her discord, which honestly felt a little pushy to me because if she blocked me she obviously didn’t want to talk, but i really wanted the chance to apologize at least.

She just seemed so mad at me and i don’t know what to do. I’m loosing a best friend here. AITA?